Many of us believe that self-love exists only in the things that we buy ourselves, saying that we love ourselves, looking our best, and putting on an ideal persona to the rest of the world. While those things are nice, true self-love runs much deeper and reflects in how we love others. To help you out, I've provided 5 Tips to Help You Dive Deeper in True Self-Love. Read on!
It took me some time to understand what honoring self is and why it is so important. Now that I am aware of what it means to honor self, I've begun to take better care of myself, leave behind the things that do not contribute to my good, put myself first when truly needed, and engage only in the things that will make me feel good, bring me closer to my goals, contribute to my happiness, and elevate every part of my life. Honoring yourself can be as simple as Being Unapologetic, or walking away from an experience or situation that disturbs your peace of mind. It is a journey of listening to your inner voice and truly knowing self.
Change Your Habits.
"If nothing changes, nothing will change". We should all know by now that change is essential and inevitable. We can start changing things in our reality by simply changing ourselves -- changing our habits. The thing about initiating a change in habit is that it will never really work unless the person has a committed desire and true self love that urges them to change. This is how I perceive changing my habits: "Do I love myself enough to change this habit into something better?" We must begin to first question why we need to change our habits. For example: How much do we love our health to change our eating habits? How much do we love our significant other to stop insulting and nagging them? How much do we love our craft to stop slacking and doing the absolute least? Initiating a habit change requires us to look at and elevate the love that we have associated with it.
Get to Know Who You Really Are
Do you truly know who you are? Many people choose to simply morph into carbon copies of another person, or a mockery of who they are truly meant to be. Without all of the outside noise and influence, sit and meditate on the idea of your authentic self. You cannot truly say that you love yourself if you are not embracing yourself in your true and authentic form. This is why it is important to actually get to know who you are. Here are a few ways to start getting to know yourself:
- Identify your strengths and weaknesses
- Define your passions
- Know your triggers
- Understand what creates authentic feelings of joy, love, and peace within you
One thing that all people have in common is the fact that we all have flaws. It is important to know and understand the reality of being a flawed individual. Some flaws can be changed, while others are just a part of who we are, and are subjective. In either case, we will always be "flawed" in someone's eyes. In the quest of loving yourself on a deeper level, it is important that you can truly identify and understand your flaws. Know what can and cannot be changed, develop plans for improvement, and be gentle with yourself as you come into the understanding of being an imperfect person.
Get in Tune with Your "Higher Self"
What if you had a person who always believed in you, was your biggest cheerleader, was your greatest supporter, gave you great advice, loved you when it is hard to, held you accountable, and gave you constructive criticism and love? Many people look for these characteristics in one person, but it was never meant for us to lean on just one person for all of this fulfillment 24/7. We may find these characteristics in different people, and sometimes temporarily and conditional, but it is important that we are giving these beautiful characteristics to ourselves first, and more than we seek in the next person. When we extend this sort of love and compassion to ourselves, we set the tone for others to reciprocate. This also allows us to set a solid foundation that remains, even if friendships and relationships change.
Tell me if you've explored these 5 things to dive deeper into true self love, and let me know how it is working for you. Comments are open!
By: Saudia M.